Yesterday’s thoughts continued…… Typically life’s encumbrances are brief in duration or do not demand a change in lifestyle. Then there are times when the most unfortunate occurs and life once familiar becomes a memory. A death, a failed relationship, shattered finances, catastrophic injury, failing health, etc. it is a new day.
As I declined into paralysis the brain rattling falls made denial impossible. I was desperately trying to hold onto a life I cherished. Repeating myself I maintained this foolish notion far too long that if I used adaptive aides/equipment I was giving into the disease. So much time and energy was wasted. For those not yet enlightened, if terminally ill or the picture of health every tick of the clock is irrecoverable. Seize the present it is the only promised time.
Longing, missing and wishing for things to return will change nothing and fill a saddened heart with ache. There is a season for everything including grief. Certainly if the power of change is in your possession do not allow hurt, fear or pride to turn an opportunity into a lifetime of regret.
Pain medication for this 19 month old headache is kick’en my memory’s butt. As I digress, I would still include the movie Shawshank Redemption inspires me enormously. I can relate to Andy being in hell by circumstance beyond one’s control, yet refusing hope to be extinguished. “It comes down to a simple choice, get busy living or get busy dying.”
I have a dear friend and upon her plate is a father with advanced ALS, she has symptoms and a young child with Cystic Fibrosis. She tells me she copes by viewing the ever changing environment as her “new normal.” That is my hero!
I cannot couch it better than my friend. Life continues and will drag you along kicking and screaming. Accept and live your new normal to the fullest. Thanks so much for reading. Have a great day! dj